tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post2514294870564534941..comments2023-12-28T09:32:32.680-06:00Comments on Good Day, Regular People: Parenting Will Cost You A Good Night's Sleep, Here and ThereAlexandrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00609629888008025050noreply@blogger.comBlogger48125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-27846702460570610882012-04-23T22:09:04.388-05:002012-04-23T22:09:04.388-05:00Respect really is a very important thing for us pa...Respect really is a <a href="http://www.mytroubledteen.com/articles/defiant-behavior/how-to-handle-a-teen-who-is-disrespectful-to-others.html" rel="nofollow">very important thing</a> for us parents. It is the least our teens can do to make us feel better. If I had a very disrespectful teen in my hands my head would probably explode and my heart will be torn off. I am lucky I don’t have one.Susannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-49906760001636774422011-12-15T15:38:05.710-06:002011-12-15T15:38:05.710-06:00I used to run a home for youth in crisis. They wou...I used to run a home for youth in crisis. They would say terrible things that would make my blood boil! But? You have worded it perfectly. <br />Stay calm. <br />Now is not the time.<br />They need support and are not the adult.<br />They are still learning how to deal with emotions.<br />We are the teacher. <br /><br /><br />Good for you. <br />You are something special my friend xoLeighannnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09049725790375843473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-7281829942096781642011-12-12T14:36:21.199-06:002011-12-12T14:36:21.199-06:00You had me at "boxed wine."
I try to th...You had me at "boxed wine."<br /><br />I try to think back to my own childhood . . . and my teenaged years. I like to think that I was respectful - I mean, I'm a pretty respectful person (objectification of women aside, which I always do tongue-in-cheek), but I know I must have selective memories.<br /><br />I worry about my 2 year old, knowing that I don't want him to hit me, so he'll hit me. Knowing I need him to be quiet because his sister is asleep, so he yells and jumps. And, I worry, more that she seems to relish in doing exactly what I don't want her to do.<br /><br />But, I'm not sure that's true disrespect, but, rather, just boundary-pushing (which, maybe, is what disrespect actually is? I'm far from a psychologist).<br /><br />What I do know is that the best parents are the ones with long memories but find forgiving second-nature.Johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05805939293906938812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-88816523868497088702011-12-12T02:33:48.054-06:002011-12-12T02:33:48.054-06:00I hope you can tell how much I love my teen, and h...I hope you can tell how much I love my teen, and how important my boy is to me.<br /><br />I could've handled this night better, but my pet peeve, my under the skin getter, is disrespect.<br /><br /><br />I have to rein in my reaction, I know it.Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00609629888008025050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-11010357459521069132011-12-12T01:35:28.929-06:002011-12-12T01:35:28.929-06:00i just learned some very important things, i know ...i just learned some very important things, i know it.Ed Pilollahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09139531369534586168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-75761483452524320192011-12-12T00:20:48.848-06:002011-12-12T00:20:48.848-06:00Just pinned this under inspiring blog posts. Blog...Just pinned this under inspiring blog posts. Blogher... that's all I'm gonna say.<br />DanaDana @ Bungalow'56https://www.blogger.com/profile/14925373078487563897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-12486040948116274692011-12-11T21:14:16.146-06:002011-12-11T21:14:16.146-06:00I love this for so many reasons. One, it's &q...I love this for so many reasons. One, it's "nice" to hear about your moments and your struggles - nice isn't a great word and I'm hoping you get what I'm trying to say. Two, I will struggle with these three steps a lot... because I can be a stubborn ass (wonder where they get it from) but reading this here will help me. Truly. Bookmarked it.Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08938378044931508438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-85937270668436787152011-12-11T18:06:56.233-06:002011-12-11T18:06:56.233-06:00I love the carb loading idea. I know personally wh...I love the carb loading idea. I know personally when I'm really hungry, I'm kind of a bitch. <br /><br />My oldest is almost 5 so I still have some time ahead of me to master the art of holding my own tongue. At least I hope I can figure it out by then!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-40830551898978268072011-12-11T14:01:37.387-06:002011-12-11T14:01:37.387-06:00Okay, my mantra is "I brought you into this w...Okay, my mantra is "I brought you into this world and I can take you out."<br /><br />Then again, no one ever accused me of being a patient, nice person.<br /><br />Heh.<br /><br />XO<br /><br />A.Anna Leflerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06968276973881720329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-41916247827546356752011-12-11T08:13:53.415-06:002011-12-11T08:13:53.415-06:00I was just saying to friends at a holiday party th...I was just saying to friends at a holiday party that the tough part of parenting isn't when the newborn baby won't sleep. Although, that IS tough. The harder part is when that newborn babe grows up to be a strong-willed teenager. So much harder. <br /><br />This too shall pass.Kimberly at Rubber Chicken Madnesshttp://www.rubberchickenmadness.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-40876498991363703622011-12-10T23:14:38.904-06:002011-12-10T23:14:38.904-06:00GREAT advice for anyone at any age. It's very...GREAT advice for anyone at any age. It's very hard not to take things personally! I always tell my husband that he makes me the happiest I've ever been and the maddest I've ever been. I also figured out why....because I love him a ton and all my emotions with him are BIGGER! <br /><br />It's amazing what a soft word and a hug can achieve - for the giver and the receiver!<br /><br />Hugs to you....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-75433582479518376512011-12-10T16:01:09.398-06:002011-12-10T16:01:09.398-06:00You are so wise, especially in your reflections. T...You are so wise, especially in your reflections. That's going to be tough for me, and I'll remember your advice when the time comes.Robin | Farewell, Strangerhttp://farewellstranger.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-28263871731828071402011-12-10T15:40:58.008-06:002011-12-10T15:40:58.008-06:00Oh I love this post! No one writes about teenagers...Oh I love this post! No one writes about teenagers on blogs- except me, it feels sometimes. I love the honesty and the advice. I'm sharing and stumbling this!!Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14699674732274478502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-84156987684030592382011-12-10T13:28:10.953-06:002011-12-10T13:28:10.953-06:00Oh honey, I'm so sorry.
I hate that feeling w...Oh honey, I'm so sorry.<br /><br />I hate that feeling where you suddenly realize that knowing what NOT to do is not enough [I get that in my marriage] and then you are at sea.<br /><br />You, however, are a stellar parent. You truly are.<br /><br />LOVE YOU SO MUCH.Suniversehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02535141439995862912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-78984943767782270442011-12-10T09:35:39.734-06:002011-12-10T09:35:39.734-06:00Spot-on suggestions! Having survived an easy son a...Spot-on suggestions! Having survived an easy son and a spectacularly difficult daughter I KNOW they work. Until those times when all your buttons are pushed at once and you chase your child out of the house and she has to lock herself in her car to retain all her limbs!Crayonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13041824592658254015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-81077406205736888772011-12-10T05:46:52.056-06:002011-12-10T05:46:52.056-06:00Aaaah! Wonderful.
When my two girls were of this ...Aaaah! Wonderful.<br /><br />When my two girls were of this age disrespect is the one thing I wouldn't tolerate. And somehow it worked. I don't know how I got so lucky. I believe it may be because I was such a stubborn bitch.<br /><br />And I always apologized if I was wrong. Always. They appreciated it I do believe. This along with really listening. (You know what I'm talking about; I know you do! You're a good listener.) <br /><br />Making our kids feel like we listen and us doing it for real makes huge differences. At least for me.<br /><br />You are so ahead of the game! Seriously.Deborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00778094998010491653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-44450610207526743732011-12-09T21:41:44.889-06:002011-12-09T21:41:44.889-06:00As you know my mom is staying with me so I'm R...As you know my mom is staying with me so I'm RIGHT back in adolescence and she's right back parenting the adolescent. NOTHING HAS CHANGED.<br /><br />I thought this might cheer you up. Or scare the crap out of you.Suzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13980186321981090019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-46683294496236128432011-12-09T21:31:01.615-06:002011-12-09T21:31:01.615-06:00My oldest turns 14 in one week. I needed this pos...My oldest turns 14 in one week. I needed this post more than you will ever know. You have helped. Oh boy, have you helped.<br /><br />(Big Fan!)Ann Harrisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06018952741830928799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-80793966583275746752011-12-09T20:47:00.260-06:002011-12-09T20:47:00.260-06:00I may need to pack chocolate in favor of pringles ...I may need to pack chocolate in favor of pringles in our carpool, but all 3 principles apply. Thank you. I think you know EXACTLY what to do.Poppyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16488870957679945837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-53613538331367987322011-12-09T20:46:34.316-06:002011-12-09T20:46:34.316-06:00I may need to pack chocolate in favor of pringles ...I may need to pack chocolate in favor of pringles in our carpool, but all 3 principles apply. Thank you. I think you know EXACTLY what to do.Poppyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16488870957679945837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-75888857790290574182011-12-09T19:23:41.938-06:002011-12-09T19:23:41.938-06:00Thank you. Your comments here today have me wishin...Thank you. Your comments here today have me wishing you were sitting right next to me on the sofa. Dipping into the bag of chocolate chips with me.<br /><br />Commiseration is a wonderful, wonderful thing. Thank you.Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00609629888008025050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-52258105930534746312011-12-09T19:06:10.998-06:002011-12-09T19:06:10.998-06:00Ugh, I'm so not looking forward to the teen ye...Ugh, I'm so not looking forward to the teen years... huu huuu... <br /><br />But thanks for these advice, Alexandra! I think in a way I'm dealing with one right now (i.e. a certain mid-life crazed person who's having his second or third puberty right now). LOL. You're right. There is no point throwing oil to the fire. And the mantra, this too shall pass? PERFECT. I really should just record it and somehow replay it over and over again in my iPod (hmm... that could make a lot of money. You shd make an Apps for that ;).Sweatyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07886118636402604168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-27494606358052333912011-12-09T18:40:09.827-06:002011-12-09T18:40:09.827-06:00Thank you for the therapy bills you probably just...Thank you for the therapy bills you probably just saved me. I will print is out and keep it in my glove compartment to reread every time I am waiting in a parking lot to chauffeur whomever!Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01294308714313220666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-58820482773140101702011-12-09T17:13:26.320-06:002011-12-09T17:13:26.320-06:00As I sat nursing my wounded heart from Mr 15s &quo...As I sat nursing my wounded heart from Mr 15s "I cant wait till I'm not living with you" your post turned up. It's good to remember it's not that personal...it's just what teens do now and then as they learn about emotional power, about sharing space, about their own tempers, and yes about blood sugar levels. Thanks Empress.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1991265338210422893.post-86266771501149182952011-12-09T16:15:44.966-06:002011-12-09T16:15:44.966-06:00You're an amazing mother who is only human. A ...You're an amazing mother who is only human. A lot of parents don't recognize these things even in hindsight.<br />Now, do you have any tips on taming a three and a half year old? I imagine they might be very similar...Jenni Chiu @MommyNaniBooboo https://www.blogger.com/profile/03539931317104305201noreply@blogger.com