Sunday, May 12, 2013

Happy Mother's Day To Them



For the past 18 years, Mother's Day has been a celebration for the three of them, my sons. The ones who made me a mother. I spend the holiday doing for them because they have made me so happy.

I don't ask my three for anything, but they still make me their cards and have their dad take them to buy me my flowers.

I'm happy at home, starting the day with the cinnamon rolls they love so much, and asking them what they'd like for dinner.

Because truthfully, in the life I've had, this holiday has always felt hollow and mandatory to me... until they were born.

Mother's Day is a day spent like any other of my days; in disbelief of the gold I've been given. The diamonds of my every days -- and though I have never not begun or ended a day since they've been born thanking everything under the stars for the jackpot that has rained down on me with them as my life, on this annual celebration, I say to myself over and over, I can't believe I am their mother.

I spent Sunday staring at their faces while they talked, the way their cheeks look so soft when the sun hits them from behind, reveling in the sound of the joy in their laughs, recognizing the uniqueness of each of their smiles and how one's lip curls up only on the right. I know just how one stands with his left leg jutted out, and how the other one always points his left knee out to the side.

Mother's Day is a day of granted requests, and I wait for them to sing to me. It's what I tell them I want when they ask me what I want them to do today. I laugh and order them, "Sing me a made up song!" And they do. Each one out voluming the other in hopes of getting the loudest applause from me, and at the end of it all, with furrowed brows, they scold me and say I can't clap the same way for all of them.

So they decide they have to do it again.

Thank you for today, my children, for giving me a holiday to celebrate. Happy Mother's Day to you.




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We live in an imperfect world, and as well intended of a sentiment as Mother's Day is, for many, it brings on an overload of complexities and life circumstances. If you're someone looking for shared words to help you feel like you're not the only one struggling with this holiday, here's a magnificent post I found: via hopefulworld .org (a great community site) In Case Mother's Day is Hard for You.

xo

34 comments:

  1. So sweet! I hope you had a lovely Mother's Day!!

    XOXO
    Anna

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  2. One of the best Mother's Day posts, my friend.
    Happy Mother's Day. xo

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  3. Hope your Mother's Day was beyond special, filled with the music of your children's love!

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  4. Awww! That was so beautiful!

    Happy Mother's Day!

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    1. Thank you and it' s good to see you!!

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  5. great looking boys you have there...and this made me smile...so where is the vid of their made up song? ha.

    happy belated mothers day empress

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    1. I twas great, Brian! How I wish you were our neighbor. Alec did one in Spanish, and Xavier did one in German, and AUggie "rapped" to me. xo It was wonderful!

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  6. Isn't it the best.
    I finally realize how important this day truly is. xo

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  7. You nailed it. Mother's Day is as much about them. Very sweet and so true.

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    1. I love that you're in the blogosphere, Diary.. I can hardly believe it!

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  8. What lovely boys you have.

    So glad my Sheldon and her husband drove in for Mother's Day, it makes me miss my own mom a little less.

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  9. OH! Alexandra! What a post. YOu bring tears to my eyes with your gratitude. Your boys are so beautiful! Such sweetness. And your gratitude is incredibly moving. I feel very fortunate to know you, such a loving person, willing to express yourself so openly. You inspire me. XXX

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  10. What a great mama you are! Mother's Day should indeed remind us to be thankful. And to think I told them all I just wanted them to CLEAN and help me get this darn house and yard straightened up. I should have asked them to sing me a made-up song while they did it at least!

    Seriously, though, you inspire us, your fellow parents, as always. God bless you for that.

    PS Your youngest boy looks a lot like you!

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    1. DOES HE?? Thank you so much! Happy mother's day to you!

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  11. I loved this..every single word.

    I am called Mom because they are here and I take great joy in that, just like you.

    wishing you a day like that every day. :)

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    1. Kir, you're so sweet to me. THANK YOU. I know you reveled in your day, too... you're a lot like me. xo

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  12. beautiful and true our kids are what makes mother's day so very very special.

    xoxo

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    1. Yes, they are, and they do. Hope you had a wonderful mother's day.

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  13. I like that perspective--that Mother's Day is about them. That makes so much more sense. I spent my day with my daughter and I pretty much did what she wanted to do, even when it meant going up and down the slide at the park huffing and puffing with my giant belly.

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    1. It is always for them, thanks, Rach. THey are the ones who make the holiday for me.

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  14. I feel much the same way. I never liked it from the daughter end, but I do want some time with the boys, and I usually take them out to breakfast.

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    1. Thank you for that. There is something comforting in finding others like us.

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  15. This made me smile. Sounds like a perfect Mother's Day. I'd love to have heard the singing-- What a happy treat for you.
    xo pk

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    1. Oh,my old friend, Joanna. HOw are you? Thank you so much for stopping by. I hope you had a good mother's day, too. xo

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  16. Happy belated Mother's Day to you, sweet lady! :)

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    1. No! I miss you! I have to hop over to visit. xo

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  17. My, your sons are getting so big, Alexandra! And so very helpful. There's a light in their eyes; they gained much wisdom from their awesome momma.

    Hope you had a very happy Mother's Day. You spent it with the best people in the world and I love you for being so appreciative of the gold you call your children. What a beautiful thing. XOXO

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  18. Your boys are just gorgeous, Alexandra.

    I was thinking of Mother's Day in so many different ways this weekend...a day where I'm deserving of this or that...the day I think of my own mother, or my girlfriends who are others...and I realized, it's a day for me to be thankful also, for this privilege to be a mother, to still have my mother around, and to have such a community of amazing mothers.

    Love your post and I agree - how blessed we are to have been given this holiday.

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