Saturday, January 26, 2013

What's Hot in 2013



"That Amie's so dang hot she listened to me wail for 20 minutes and never once checked her phone..."

There are several ways to be really cool and in on the latest trends for 2013.

One hip and happening way to ride above the norm of the normal is to listen to someone talk about grief and loss until they've talked your ear off.

Let them wear out their welcome on your sleeve. And after they do that, flip 'em over and let them do it to your other sleeve. Listen to them tell you all about the first time they met their beloved, and go on through their favorite memory, and then hold them while they incoherently sob and gasp about the day the earth stood still for them.

Those on the cutting edge of coolness will sit without looking at their watch once, letting time stand still for them as it has for the person they're receiving wet words from.

You can start by asking how they are doing. If you are the Elvis of emotion, you'll gently place your hand on their forearm and offer to do anything. There are things that are simple to you but impossible for them right now. Tell them you're going to the grocery store anyway and will pick up what they need for them as long as you're there -- they'll appreciate this because supermarket music will bring them to their knees with their eternal loop of Jackson Brown's "Fountain of Sorrow." Leave a surprise package of four Starbucks frappuccinos on their doorstep with a sheet of white paper taped to the top -- nothing but a big red heart drawn on it in marker.

Write the words "I love you" on  the back.

Once you've decided to be a Love Rebel With a Cause, grab that black kickass love leather coat of yours and crank it up a notch. Call your griever in the morning, for only a few seconds and rock their world. Say, "Hey. Want you to know that I'm thinking about you." Yank on your badass Frye boots and use them to strut your tough self over to their doorstep; you may have to kick the door once or twice to let them know you're there because your hands will be too full with that night's dinner.

To ensure that you go all sexy James Dean Love on their walloped soul, tweak this special time with them:
  • Strip your mind of all other thoughts when you're with them
  • Turn off all communication devices
  • DON'T USE YOUR PHONE
  • Emphasize what they mean to you
  • There are a hundred places you could be right now, LET THEM KNOW THIS IS THE ONLY ONE THAT COUNTS
  • Let AVAILABLE become your first, middle, and last name
  • Look at allllllll their pictures, their letters, their videos, look at it all, and say "I'm sorry"
  • Mean every word 
Sometimes life looks you right center in the eye and gifts you with the chance to be a rockstar. Take it, and be someone's Keith Richards -- who we all know is the cooler Rolling Stone.

*I want to thank all my outasite bohemian beatniks who swooped down on their sparkly jagged wings of hep cat healing love and carried me through this month on their cool breeze.

I love you.


photo credit: Kid Paparazzi via photopin cc

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30 comments:

  1. That's when you know you've got really good friends! Keepers, for sure.

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  2. This. All of this, for you. And much love.

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    1. Thank you. I don't know what else to say to let you know how your wishes make me smile.

      xo

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  3. keith is def cool...smiles...as are you...and def in the sitting down and letting them talk...and talking yourself...in the talk there is def love...

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    1. Thank you, B. As I told you in my email, it's one minute at a time for my sister. I have to be strong to help her make it (she has 3 other children) and kindness like yours helps me. Thank you.

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  4. You are the coolest of them all, A. You have so many friends who love you because you CARE so much about others. You are a rare bird (I just love saying that) and I'm thrilled to squeeze into your flock. :-)

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    1. You always make me feel special. Thank you. xo

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  5. I am so glad you have such rock stars. I have no doubt you have been one yourself...no doubt at all. Xoxox

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  6. What won't those crazy hep kids think of next?

    Four coffees in one swoop is so much smarter than my generation's one every three hours. The red heart note seals their genius.

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  7. Friends are the best. You are one of those true gems you know. xoxo

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  8. Best definition of cool EVER. I'm passing it along. And trying it myself.

    Thank you.

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    1. Oh, Marianne, kindess and compassion: makes our world go 'round.
      xo

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  9. You are amazing, hence you have amazing friends. xoxo

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    1. xo

      support, best predictor of someone making it through, right?
      xo

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  10. I am so glad you have the beatniks. I know that you would do the same for them, which is why they grace your doorstep.

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  11. Cool in my book, fo' sho'.
    Sending internet love to you.

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  12. Your friends are real "keepers". I'm glad they've been there for you and I'm sure will continue to.
    Love to you and your family.
    xo jj

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    1. Thank you so much for visiting, and your kind words, JJ.

      xo

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  13. I am so glad you are so loved during this time. We all need those Keith Richards' in our lives.

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  14. i can't even attempt to leave a comment that approaches clever right now. But I love this. Your words. Your truth. All of it.

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    1. Thanks, Jen. Your words, so honest, always so honest, have lifted me many, many times.

      xo

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  15. I looved this post. I'm glad you had your rock star visitations, because you needed it so badly. This writing is a great piece of advice for anyone who wants to be a lovin', heart-mendin' superstar.

    Alexandra, we're with you and we're glad you have your Keith Richards.

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    1. Thank YOU for your kind emails, how you check in, Hillary. I appreciate it so much. I really do.

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  16. I'm so glad you have such good, supportive friends. Friends like those are hard to find.

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  17. An important post and reminder, Alexandra. We all need to wake up and do the right thing. Love you xoxoxo

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  18. Thank you, every one, you've all been such a big part of giving me a reason to smile.

    Truly.

    Thank you, I am so grateful for your friendship.

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  19. There's no one more deserving of a few rockstar listeners in their life than you. Hugging you tight virtually right now. XOXO

    And I know this goes without saying (at least, I hope truly that it does...) my door (and arms) are ALWAYS open for you.

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